In Japan, as with any other country I have been to, there is a strange and stupid phenomenon. You will walk through a subway station and come to the exit — on the right the escalator, on the left the stairs. The escalator will inevitably be packed, sardined with people looking for the quicker, easier way up, while the stairs up next to it are like a ghost town. People will even line up for minutes just to take the escalator up, despite the extra time and effort it takes to stand and shuffle and forward and wait just to be able to take the “quicker and easier” shortcut. Meanwhile, the stairs, those jagged, lumpy things where you have to move your legs a little more, are as deserted a post-apocalyptic cityscape.
It’s crazy. Eschew the escalator. Eschew the “easy” and “quick” shortcuts that may (but usually, as in the case of many escalators, actually don’t) get you there faster. Avoid the quick fix that leaves you soft, untrained, unlearned and as useless a lump of flesh as when you started.
I had a girlfriend before, who in some ways didn’t respect me as a man. She would touch my ass and giggle and say how soft it was.…like a girls. She wasn’t being a bitch, she was telling the truth. When I would get obviously upset, while trying to remain cool, she would say “its okay, its cute” which of course just made it worse. Yet, my first reaction was never to go hit the road, hit the gym, hit the weights, stop eating breads and pastries by the loaf-load.No, of course not, that would have taken time and hard-work. My reaction was always to get pissed off at her. “Who does she think she is? Her ass isn’t that great. Her tits aren’t very big. Pffft!”
I would always blame it all on her somehow, thinking how she doesn’t have the social skills or sensitivity or warm heart to be supportive and know how to talk to men and build them up. That also was true, as true as the quality of her ass and breasts. I had experience with women who would have better social skills, or a better body, or a better way of talking to men and massaging their egos. But the truth of all of that, any shortcomings she had was irrelevant. The fact that she could say those things, let alone think them and notice them, was because of my failings, my laziness and my weakness.
Now, what does the ghost of my flabby ass past and my ex-girlfriend have to do with escalators and shortcuts? I took mental shortcuts. I jumped straight past the mental reaction that would be painful and lead to hardwork and a long road, facing up to my shortcoming and working on it, and instead jumped to reactions that protected my ego and shifted the blame away from me and onto other people.
The same thing happens with guys who can’t get girls. They could improve themselves as men, working on their genuine conversation skills, their work, life mission and focus, their mental sharpness, their discipline, their body, health and physique, basically all the things that make a man attractive to a woman…
.……but instead they think
“I can game the bitches into liking me!”
They go out and pay some money for a book and a quick fix. A few lines, or techniques to use. As though a few words strung together, or a certain way of holding their body can solve everything.
Or with business. I could build a deep knowledge in an area, a genuinely useful product to help people. Or I could just go for a slick marketing campaign, sell the sizzle not the steak.
These are all shortcuts, which are very, very appealing, but leave you at your destination without the character and strength and knowledge to really gain anything in the long term.
Eschew the escalators.
Eschew the shortcuts.
Put in the hardwork, set your eyes far off on the horizon, put your head down and get to work. Leave those other chumps lining up for the escalator.
Likewise with game.…learn tricks to make girls like you…learn tricks to imitate the kind of guy girls are attracted to…fuck that…put in the work and become that guy.…
I want to build a business inspiring people and helping them…then think…why would they listen to me? Who am I to be telling them what to do? or how to live? or how to achieve this or that? BInitial instinct is to use marketing, tricks, images, technqiues.….but fuck that…put the hard work in yourself…to prove to yourself it does work.….to become the kind of person people want to follow…to want to become like…become the kind of man people want to listen to kand know his secrets and try to emulate parts of his path.…..
fuck the shortcuts.…fuck their fleeting pay offs