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Finding Your True North, Your Passion, Part 4 — Follow-Up

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This is the fourth part in the FINDING YOUR TRUE NORTH series of arti­cles. In these arti­cles we started by call­ing BS on your lack of clar­ity, by telling you to for­get your doubt, dig deep and stop lying to your­self. Then in part 2 we got into check­ing your mind­set before start­ing out and then in part 3 we delved deeper into your past, inter­ests and abil­i­ties to let you realise your true north, your pas­sion in life.

If you haven’t read those yet, go back and do it.

If you have and got into it, but then got stuck, got con­fused, dis­cour­aged, or just went off track and for­got about it, then this post is for you. Today is your fol­low up, your wake-up call and your last chance.

FINDING YOUR TRUE NORTH:

LAST CALL

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1 — When you know it’s not right, quit quickly. 

Yeah, this doesn’t seem to gel with the focus of this whole site, of never giv­ing up, of learn­ing the willpower to grit your teeth and push through. But this is one for­got­ten side of the willpower coin; mak­ing firm deci­sions to say no and leav­ing some­thing even though it may be dif­fi­cult. Stay­ing in the job you hate just because you haven’t worked out the next part yet is one of the best things you can do. Stay­ing with some­thing (or some­one) that you hate just because there’s noth­ing bet­ter yet doesn’t work because it keeps you just com­fort­able enough. Com­fort drains all the time and energy you could use for start­ing up the next thing, or work­ing out exactly what you want. Yes, quit­ting some­thing is scary, and you may need a lit­tle money saved, or not, but it’s good for you in the end. Face real­ity. If it’s not work­ing, leave it behind.

2- Make finan­cial con­cerns sec­ondary to your pas­sion.

Look, of course you have to make money and your pas­sion should become some mon­e­tised sys­tem, oth­er­wise you’re just talk­ing about a glo­ri­fied hobby. But when you are work­ing out your pas­sion in the first part, money shouldn’t be your sole, or even your main con­cern. If you have been strug­gling so far in work­ing out what your pas­sion is, this may be a stum­bling block. But don’t worry about it for now. Work out your pas­sion first and then work out how to mon­e­tise it next. This is impor­tant, but not until you’ve got­ten step 1 done, until then thoughts of money just get in the way and cloud the pic­ture more than it already is.

Many peo­ple give this con­cept of “pas­sion first and money sec­ond” lip ser­vice but you really have to deeply and hon­estly make that men­tal switch to free your­self. Stop lim­it­ing your options to what are the usual, sleazy and pre­dictable ways of mak­ing money.

It can be help­ful to imag­ine what you would do if money were no object (and you’ve been using The Path To Willpower, worked on your dis­ci­pline and have crushed the indul­gent, lazy part out of your­self).

3– Don’t set any arti­fi­cial ceil­ings or bound­aries for your­self.

You may have thought of some pas­sions, some dri­ving forces in your life in the pre­vi­ous parts, but then looked at the job titles, job types and options that com­monly exist in the world and thought “ah, there’s the catch…there is no job that exists to cover my pas­sions”.

That job doesn’t exist?

So go and make it.

Carve out your own path. You don’t need a job. You don’t need some­one to hand some­thing to you, all safe, pre­pared, pre-pack­aged and ready for you to fit effort­lessly into. That’s why it is your pas­sion. Its yours and no-one else’s. Of course it doesn’t already exist, if it did, then it wouldn’t be yours.

Do not limit your­self with arti­fi­cial job titles, lim­its to how far or how much you can do with some­thing. Dream big and then fill in the prac­ti­cal steps to get there, to carve out your path and take it.

4- It may be a delayed reac­tion.

As alluded to in the sec­ond part, you may have an exag­ger­ated, drama­tised idea of what your pas­sion should look and feel like from TV and movies. You may not feel ecsta­t­i­cally high when­ever you do a lit­tle of your pas­sion. You may not burst into song and start rid­ing rain­bows through fields of lol­lipops at the mere men­tion of your true north. That all depends on your per­son­al­ity, the tim­ing and what drugs you may have been tak­ing. The feel­ing of reward you get may be a slow burn and could well be a hard slog at times, hours and hours of hard work before the reward comes and you feel that burst of plea­sure.

5-WE LEARN WHO WE AREIN PRACTICE, NOT IN THEORYBY TESTING REALITY.

As much as all of these writ­ing, think­ing and pon­der­ing with a note­book and a web­site or paper in front of you may be good, there is a limit. There is only so far you can go inside your head. Your skull is really pretty small and con­fines what you can really work out. Sure, your imag­i­na­tion is an end­less uni­verse of pos­si­bil­i­ties, mem­o­ries of past hob­bies and pas­sions and clues.…but it’s not real. The only way you will ever work it out com­pletely is with action. At some point you need to try things, to actu­ally get out of your head and act. That old mem­ory of how you used to love draw­ing when you were a kid may feel like a pretty solid lead to your true north in your ide­alised mem­o­ries, but you will only know when you actu­ally try it. So use your actions to test and try things on, like slip­ping into an old jacket to see if it still works, to see if it still feels good.

Think­ing in abstract, imag­in­ing, plan­ning and striv­ing can be good but some­times you need to get out of your head­space oth­er­wise the myr­iad of pos­si­bil­i­ties and “what ifs” can tie you in knots.

Take a break some­times, from busi­ness think­ing, from striv­ing, from feel­ing the pres­sure to have a pas­sion and.….just have fun. Go appre­ci­ate some beauty, whether that’s women, cars, wine, good food or get­ting out into nature. Get­ting out­doors and away from every­thing is espe­cially pow­er­ful. It lets you unplug and dis­con­nect from thoughts and dis­trac­tions and find what is truly at the core of you.

Remem­ber too that you don’t need to have a per­fect vision and plan worked out before you start act­ing on it. If you waited for the per­fect plan and the per­fect time, you would never begin. Get an idea of your true north, get some basic steps worked out and

then

start

ACTING!

Ben­jamin Dis­raeli once said;

Man is only great when he acts from passion.”

Plan and think.

Use these arti­cles as guides to help you define your True North.

But don’t for­get to act and go out and carve out your path.

Comments

  1. Big Roy

    Great stuff! I loved it.
    I’d like to see and hear more.
    The font is really small on my com­puter screen though

  2. AussieJules

    Very nicely thought out.… YES its impor­tant to know when to quit. As some­one who is quite stub­born with strong willpower, this can be quite hard. But im get­ting bet­ter at it. Also not to take such “fail­ures” or rather “lessons in what doesnt work for me” — per­son­ally, which has been quite a chal­lenge for myself .
    Yes the FONT is too small.… lucky for me I have a mac­book air and can expand it a a touch of my touch­pad…

    Any­way, great web­site. Cheers from Far North Queens­land.
    i’m on snap­per island, after 2 hours sea kayak­ing in heavy swell.. in my pyra­mid tent, using my lap­top and inter­net via my mobile phone.… low tech and high tech…

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      Connor Bryant

      Thanks. Yeah…it’s impor­tant to fol­low pas­sion, but not be blind about it.
      try­ing to bal­ance out the BS mes­sages that most West­ern raised peo­ple get fed these days.
      Great that you have good dis­ci­pline!
      I find mine always needs sharp­en­ing up in dif­fer­ent areas.

      Enjoy the island!

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